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Rawden Consulting – Pattern Breaker!

Sitting in front of a panel of six at the course “Next Generation Business” I hear myself say: “I like breaking patterns” and “Letting go of old patterns makes room for the future – to build patterns I want to have! Patterns I choose.”

Just before I decided it was my turn in the hot seat I heard the word “pattern breaker” in my head. Sure I knew that is what my life is about. But I hadn’t seen it as BRANDING.

 

My coaching, my courses, my lectures that’s what they are about – letting go of old patterns to make room for and  go for new ones that we actively choose!

 

Thank you so much Next Generation Business, the panel, all 24 participants. Your exciting stories, your listening, your courage and knowledge – all paved the way for my insight and all the old patterns I let go of and the new I now build!

 

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“No” gave lots of “Yes-experiences”

First I said: “Yes – come to me for tea and I’ll read a bit of my book to you and I’ll enjoy a ride on the scooter.”

Then I was invited to go by snow-scooter and spend the whole evening and night with friends. And I dared to say: “No.”

After a short liberating ride on the snow-scooter I walked back and achieved the following of my goals for the day:

Got a 25 min walk
Saw my parents and got info for my book (1 h)
Shovelled snow – so it didn’t get stuck (1 h)
Revised my book (2,5 h)
Read my book to friends  (1,5 h)

What a fabulous day – I got it all! The combination of “yes” and “no” was just right. The power of now. The power of choice. I’m really happy.
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Chosen in Pride

How do they choose on TV? They chose to show a close-up of me at the Pride event at Skellefteå this week-end. Why?
 I observe that I have all the colours of the rainbow – and that I look happy – which I am. Is that why?
Could it be that at the core of the Pride-movement is the wish that we all may feel permission – internally and externally – to feel the bliss of being ourselves?

From SVT

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The Art of Falling – Alpine and Otherwise

Watching several alpine skiers go off-track I said “Those who attend riding school are taught the art of falling. Wonder if the slalom-people have that sort of training too?” And then I heard myself say: “It is more important to be able to fall without hurting yourself than to be fast.”

Surely it must be so?! If you can fall well, you can get up and carry on moving at variable speed. Going fast is not the most important thing.

Those who feel confidence in their ability to fall in a good way – can ski faster – than those haven’t learnt the art of falling. Being fit both mentally and physically also help alpine skiers who want to go both quickly and safely.

So what about me? And you? Our life is equally important as theirs – especially for ourselves. What do we do to ensure that we are, in every way, on good form and ready to take on what life brings us?

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Finishing nicely before X-mas

“I’ll just finish everything before Christmas” is a common phrase this time of year. “Everything” is a big concept. The ambition to be literally done with “everything” is to set oneself up for failure – to give oneself an impossible goal. Such goals can lead to much frustration.

Fortunately, we can redefine the content of the word “everything” to include that which we actually finished. Or we can actively reformulate our approach. How about …? “I enjoy finishing a few things now before Christmas. Now I declare myself satisfied with my ongoing projects and put them aside. Now I take a break and recover. Then with  fresh courage I will take on what I choose to start in January.”

Suddenly I think of the words of wisdom: “Give me the strength to change the things I want and can change, the strength to accept the things I cannot change and the wisdom to distinguish between the two.”

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Finishing nicely before X-mas

“I’ll get everything ready by Christmas” is a common phrase this time of year. “Everything” is a big concept. The ambition to be done with literally “everything” is to set oneself up for failure – to give oneself an impossible goal. Such goals can lead to much frustration.

Fortunately, we can redefine the content of the word “everything” to include that which we actually finished. Or we can actively reformulate our approach. How about …? “It is nice finishing a few things now before Christmas. Now I declare myself satisfied with my ongoing projects and put them aside. Now I take a break and recover. Then with  fresh courage I will take on what I choose to start in January. ”

Suddenly I think of the words of wisdom: “Give me the strength to change the things I want and can change, the strength to accept the things I cannot change and the wisdom to distinguish between the two.”

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Making X-mas suit Me

How long will you sleep during Donald Duck (on TV between 3-4 pm on the 24th) this year? That is one of my yardsticks of how life is compared to other years. When I have stressed and worked too hard, I will not stay awake during the less exciting parts.

But this year I’m in shape. Tired sometimes admittedly but the Christmas rush is non-existant even though Christmas is celebrated at my house for the first time ever. Something big has changed in my life. I get to do what I want in terms of work and the feeling of standing up for myself and what my life is all about is spreading into all areas of life.

And I like Donald Duck. Hosting during that time and running with mulled wine and raisins and serving up food for immediate attack afterwards… No, it doesn’t appeal to me. I have asked my relatives to come after four. Then we get the X-mas smörgåsboard ready. But between 3 and 4 o’clock I get to be the little child I also am and watch Donald Duck with just my very closest.

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Drop Jante and Hitler

Of course Jante is a force in our lives. But do you know how much Jante affects you in your thoughts and your work?

Thanks to my time as a coach abroad, I have seen a tendency among German leaders to turn themselves into a knot because they do not want to be like Hitler. When they realize that this is what they are doing there are a few insights like:

– I’m not Hitler – and won’t become Hitler.

– It’s silly.

– I can drop this idea and stop blocking myself

A smile of relief and happiness spread across their faces. Imagine how much that has suddenly become possible.

To stick to the Jante Law about how we are not to believe we are someone; Never act in ways you’ve never done; Just do what you’ve always done, etc – it is also limiting and silly. But we do not talk about it – we do see it – because it’s completely normal?!

Time to let go of Jante. It is a happiness to direct one’s own life.

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Changing Tires Life Model

Two of the winter tires were spinning the wrong way leading water into the wheel rather then away from it. When I notised I wanted to change it round. There were protests:

–       Don’t worry about that. It was that way last year and nothing happened.

–       But now I know about it and I want it to be right. I can’t let it be wrong when I can easily change it. Otherwise, I would worry. The car testing authorities would demand a change to optimise breaking. Would the traffic insurance even be fully valid like this?

I decided that I if wouldn’t get help I’d change it myself and I said:

–       You may help me if you like.

And I did get help. So what if it worked last year. With all the wheels  spinning in the right direction I feel calm and that I’m on the right track in my life. If and when I find that one of fundaments in my life is wrong I change it. I rebuild from the foundation when needed. I’m happy to do so.

In the summer it will be time to change the tires again. Summer is a time in life when the foundations need adjusting again. It is bit tiresome. But the advantages outweigh the hardship. It will be much quieter in the car and the streets will not wear out those studs that will be needed as support when winter comes.

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If Life was a Game

Do we take our lives seriously – really? Certainly we live and life goes on. But if life is serious shouldn’t we control it? Shape it according to our desires rather than just let it pass?

In the sunflower challenge we played that the sunflowers stood for entrepreneurship and their growth showed our company’s development. But almost everyone – including Rawden Consulting – did not report the results and missed out on the chance to position themselves and win. We did not take it seriously. It was not real.

But when we played as kids – then it was serious. We decided to play something, got totally into it and got lost in time and space. Time rules dissolved because we were so focused.

We can do the same as adults too – if we take life seriously, like a game!

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