Monthly Archives: December 2016

Finishing nicely before X-mas

“I’ll just finish everything before Christmas” is a common phrase this time of year. “Everything” is a big concept. The ambition to be literally done with “everything” is to set oneself up for failure – to give oneself an impossible goal. Such goals can lead to much frustration.

Fortunately, we can redefine the content of the word “everything” to include that which we actually finished. Or we can actively reformulate our approach. How about …? “I enjoy finishing a few things now before Christmas. Now I declare myself satisfied with my ongoing projects and put them aside. Now I take a break and recover. Then with  fresh courage I will take on what I choose to start in January.”

Suddenly I think of the words of wisdom: “Give me the strength to change the things I want and can change, the strength to accept the things I cannot change and the wisdom to distinguish between the two.”

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Finishing nicely before X-mas

“I’ll get everything ready by Christmas” is a common phrase this time of year. “Everything” is a big concept. The ambition to be done with literally “everything” is to set oneself up for failure – to give oneself an impossible goal. Such goals can lead to much frustration.

Fortunately, we can redefine the content of the word “everything” to include that which we actually finished. Or we can actively reformulate our approach. How about …? “It is nice finishing a few things now before Christmas. Now I declare myself satisfied with my ongoing projects and put them aside. Now I take a break and recover. Then with  fresh courage I will take on what I choose to start in January. ”

Suddenly I think of the words of wisdom: “Give me the strength to change the things I want and can change, the strength to accept the things I cannot change and the wisdom to distinguish between the two.”

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Making X-mas suit Me

How long will you sleep during Donald Duck (on TV between 3-4 pm on the 24th) this year? That is one of my yardsticks of how life is compared to other years. When I have stressed and worked too hard, I will not stay awake during the less exciting parts.

But this year I’m in shape. Tired sometimes admittedly but the Christmas rush is non-existant even though Christmas is celebrated at my house for the first time ever. Something big has changed in my life. I get to do what I want in terms of work and the feeling of standing up for myself and what my life is all about is spreading into all areas of life.

And I like Donald Duck. Hosting during that time and running with mulled wine and raisins and serving up food for immediate attack afterwards… No, it doesn’t appeal to me. I have asked my relatives to come after four. Then we get the X-mas smörgåsboard ready. But between 3 and 4 o’clock I get to be the little child I also am and watch Donald Duck with just my very closest.

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Drop Jante and Hitler

Of course Jante is a force in our lives. But do you know how much Jante affects you in your thoughts and your work?

Thanks to my time as a coach abroad, I have seen a tendency among German leaders to turn themselves into a knot because they do not want to be like Hitler. When they realize that this is what they are doing there are a few insights like:

– I’m not Hitler – and won’t become Hitler.

– It’s silly.

– I can drop this idea and stop blocking myself

A smile of relief and happiness spread across their faces. Imagine how much that has suddenly become possible.

To stick to the Jante Law about how we are not to believe we are someone; Never act in ways you’ve never done; Just do what you’ve always done, etc – it is also limiting and silly. But we do not talk about it – we do see it – because it’s completely normal?!

Time to let go of Jante. It is a happiness to direct one’s own life.

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